Anonymous asked: 1.Hi. Can one be asexual but still experience arousal towards sexual fantasies? I mean, I can get turned on, but not by real-life-people-standing-in-front-of-me. I can find someone (movies, art, etc.) attractive, but I don't get turned on by them
2.I had a bf and I was never aroused by him. But I did fine on my own. Can this be asexual or is this something else? Sorry for bothering you.
Yes, arousal and sexual fantasies are not an indicator of sexual attraction or what you would want in real life. I actually go into it in detail in this post, so check that out. You might experience aesthetic attraction, like many aces, which is when you can find something or something aesthetically pleasing, but it doesn’t mean you’re also sexually attracted. Also, many asexuals are able to please themselves but don’t feel the need to involve another person. So none of the things you mentioned disqualify you from being asexual—if you feel like the label fits you, use it!